My husband told our kids, "People can only succeed in insulting you if you allow them to." I think he was paraphrasing Eleanor Roosevelt when she wrote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
What great counsel! I witnessed yesterday what occurs when someone follows that advice. Here is what happened:
My son signed up for cooking classes. Oh my goodness,what grief he got from his brothers! "What? Cooking class? Isn't that class for girls?" "Why would a boy take a cooking class? You learn about spices!" "No way would I be caught dead in a cooking class!" Well, the son who is taking this class didn't care about these comments. In fact, he ignored the comments completely. The intended sting from the remarks lost all power. Yesterday when my son came home from his 3rd cooking class, those same brothers asked, "Oh, what did you make?"